I think one of the misunderstood traces of shocks that families speak to me is rooted in real issues with memory.
Okay, so here's an example of who you will be ALL better (parent and child) when you can meet your child right where he is. Everything begins in the Hippocampus region in a brain where short-term memory is combined in chronic memory. Post-mortem research shows that damage to Hippocampus can affect the ability of the individual to learn new information and maintain it (memory) and that when this injury occurs during childhood it causes serious effects.
I call this Swiss cheese effect. (I'm a very visual person) So view this with me … a big chunk of Swiss cheese. Not cheap little blocks from the dairy market in your grocery store, but the cheeses found in the specialty shop – the REAL Swiss Swiss cheese. It has things that are solid and solid, but it also has areas with large holes. I mean you can hold your finger through a good piece of Swiss. Perhaps this is a good show of the child's Hippocampus after suffering a trauma (remember that they have all lost their main cause so that they can be injured).
Here's what's going on. At stressful times, our Limbic system calls for fighting or flying responses to help us cope with things. One tool it uses is the release of Cortisol. But usually after stress has gone, Cortisol will return to normal. However, in excess of Cortisol, in special shocks, the body is released. This discharge or flood has a negative effect on the brain, damaging the nerve cells in the Hippocampus … creating a Swiss cheese effect. Now I want to state that my point of view for you is not literal, but rather graphic. Hippocampus has no holes in itself; His nervous cells were damaged, which means her activity is like Swiss cheese. Sometimes the nerves are often associated and they do not … like they are not there.
Let's use your new knowledge for the child. Does your child have trouble following the instructions, applying the rules for new situations, finding things, learning? Does it look awesome or manipulative? In other words, you always think he'd just try better he could do it or she did it just two days ago that she is struggling by not doing it right now. It's so important that, like deliberate parents, you understand that this is NOT a threat to action … this is a deficit! It's about memory; You have to do it differently!
As parents you can add a negative and alarming turn of the deficit by misunderstanding the defeat as a threat or you can stop the spin, make a healing and help the family to flourish. Find him right where he is. It's real … many of our children do not have the ability to; Remember the instructions, as they put things, how it works right now, make good decisions, and so much more. So, be the safety net … where your child is most understood, which changes the most value, which eventually turns into healing.
The family can flourish if you happen to be parents!
Source by Stacy Manning